Re:Susan & Arin answer your questions - June/July 2008

Hi,

For Erin: At the beginning of the movie you were mostly doing marriges and were unhappy in it though you made little efforts, at the end you seem to travel and helping out in what you really want to do.  How do you feel this project kick started you into what you've wanted to do for a while ? How did Susan affect your motivation and getting things through ? Was it chance that she arrived at the right point of you life or did you really push each other.

For Susan: How has this project affected your direction ? You were always an artist, but you are portrayed as a visual artisit, now you're in film. Do you plan on going back to visual arts? How has this experience changed your perspective? Do you think you would you still be a struggling waitress?

This relationship clearly made you push each other further creatively. I would like your thought on it and how ultimatly you pushed each other too far, spent too much time in the claustriophobic enviroment. Could the relationship have been saved with the big fat cheque mentionned earlier, or without the movie, if you kept your day jobs and made slow little podcasts ?

Good luck in all your projects,

with Love,

Gabriella

Did you ever get out of credit card debt?

Did you ever get out of credit card debt?

Re:Susan & Arin answer your questions - June/July 2008

Thank you for taking the time to read my questions. I have 3:

1. You opened yourselves up to public scrutiny through your project. While it seems that the response has been positive in general, do you find the self induced publicity invasive at all?

2. Since your romantic relationship has apparently concluded it seems like the public responses have centered around that ending. However I always felt like the whole ‘point’ of the project (if there is just one) was not necessarily your specific romantic relationship but the exploration of communication and peer interaction in general. Am I off here?

3. With the assumption that the exploration of communication was key to the project- Have you learned anything about communication that you’ll take with you in later relationships, romantic or otherwise?

Best wishes to you both. I see so much of myself in you Susan and so much of both my current boyfriend and an ex in you Arin- watching you both feels like watching my own life sometimes. I wonder how many other people have gone through similar experiences. I can't decide if it makes me feel less special to know my experiences are not unique; or if it makes me feel relieved to not be alone.

Re:Susan & Arin answer your questions - June/July 2008

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Re:Susan & Arin answer your questions - June/July 2008

After watching your podcasts numerous times everytime I wonder to myself "Why is it I want you two to be together so bad?". Ive never met you, I dont know you by anything other than what your podcasts have shown me but I cant imagine a world that you two wouldnt be together in. I cant really say you seem perfect for eachother as I wouldnt know, I guess I wanted to know if Arin would ever give your intimate relationship a second chance? It just seems so wrong for you two not to enjoy the problems and joys of life together, no matter how enjoyable or miserable things end up. Is it not fact that you two would want to experience these problems together rather then anyone else in the world? Dont you both think about eachother almost everyday? If you two do still question your relationship is it truly over? these question are keeping me bogged down and I cant seem to bring them up with anyone other then you as you've experienced a living, breathing, and dieing relationship. I just want to keep my relationship from spiraling downward (Although I highly doubt it would ever happen). Im hitting about the age you two were when beginning your relationship. I was the same as Arin before I met my other, weve been together for almost 2 years. sorry for such a long response, your movie has opened my eyes in sooo many ways I couldnt begin to describe how you both have effected me. Also are you ever going to Florida for anything in the future it would be nice to actually talk and meet you guys in my lifetime. Hopefully this question will reach you and Im not too late. Please give these questions some thought, if your relationship was to continue I think I could continue my life knowing that if Arin and Susan can get over there differences, anyone can!

Re:Susan & Arin answer your questions - June/July 2008

howdy,

This is kind of more like a reponse then a question. First of all, this must be so weird for me or anyone else in the world to be able to take this giant leap to look at you and your lives as you've shown them, its incredible, its beautiful art...so thank you.

I wanted you to know Susan there is someone out there who whole heartedly indentifies with your fatal flaw... I too have the curse. But I want you to know you have been an inspiration, but however inspiring I HAVE THIS DAMN FATAL FLAW! Excuse the sound of anger and frustraion... OK

I will let you know if I ever find a cure.

Damn Arin, you seem like a trutly wonderful guy. You are both beautiful....and **** I sound like a creep again.

Anyways the reponse...

I am currently in a relationship running fairly parallel to your foureyedmonster episodes. We are going on three years now, ...'my guy', he's amazing and I love him...And when we first got together we we're so invigorated and simply right...fucking inspired. Now I feel like we've hit this wall...we are no longer inspiring eachother, and I feel as if I need to get away from him to get any of my shit figuired out, or maybe if I had more space or time to myself I would be able to get some art done. I've had some amazing idea's...but thats just what they are...idea's.

At the same time I am having this struggle because he is my best friend, he is my lover, he is my family, he is me... I know we are suffering the same feelings, neither of us can cope. But, do I leave, can I honestly walk away from the most amazing fucking person/things I have seen/met/experienced/looooved?  I have never gone so far as Susan to even get the balls to kiss anyone else, but i've thought about it, I feel, young, and sexed... and I want change....or do I, you know?

I simply can't figure it out, and humans as a general rule they think they want soemthing...and then they get it...and then are they any happier? or do they want something else.

where is the end of the earth?

am i dying alive or can art still be evoked from this lifeless monster.

better yet, can love survive...

your sad sap friend,

nicole.

p.s. good luck to you both, i hope you both find what you're looking for.

Re:Susan & Arin answer your questions - June/July 2008

iwouldbeanoutlaw:

howdy,

This is kind of more like a reponse then a question. First of all, this must be so weird for me or anyone else in the world to be able to take this giant leap to look at you and your lives as you've shown them, its incredible, its beautiful art...so thank you.

I wanted you to know Susan there is someone out there who whole heartedly indentifies with your fatal flaw... I too have the curse. But I want you to know you have been an inspiration, but however inspiring I HAVE THIS DAMN FATAL FLAW! Excuse the sound of anger and frustraion... OK

I will let you know if I ever find a cure.

Damn Arin, you seem like a trutly wonderful guy. You are both beautiful....and **** I sound like a creep again.

Anyways the reponse...

I am currently in a relationship running fairly parallel to your foureyedmonster episodes. We are going on three years now, ...'my guy', he's amazing and I love him...And when we first got together we we're so invigorated and simply right...fucking inspired. Now I feel like we've hit this wall...we are no longer inspiring eachother, and I feel as if I need to get away from him to get any of my shit figuired out, or maybe if I had more space or time to myself I would be able to get some art done. I've had some amazing idea's...but thats just what they are...idea's.

At the same time I am having this struggle because he is my best friend, he is my lover, he is my family, he is me... I know we are suffering the same feelings, neither of us can cope. But, do I leave, can I honestly walk away from the most amazing fucking person/things I have seen/met/experienced/looooved?  I have never gone so far as Susan to even get the balls to kiss anyone else, but i've thought about it, I feel, young, and sexed... and I want change....or do I, you know?

I simply can't figure it out, and humans as a general rule they think they want soemthing...and then they get it...and then are they any happier? or do they want something else.

 

where is the end of the earth?

am i dying alive or can art still be evoked from this lifeless monster.

better yet, can love survive...

your sad sap friend,

nicole.

 

p.s. good luck to you both, i hope you both find what you're looking for.

you know like thoes houses of mirrors where you walk in and you see yourself and you look like someone else but everything else is you....i feel kind of like that when i watch your video's.

its too bad this discussion board is closed and this may never be read.

Re:Susan & Arin answer your questions - June/July 2008

iwouldbeanoutlaw:

howdy,

This is kind of more like a reponse then a question. First of all, this must be so weird for me or anyone else in the world to be able to take this giant leap to look at you and your lives as you've shown them, its incredible, its beautiful art...so thank you.

I wanted you to know Susan there is someone out there who whole heartedly indentifies with your fatal flaw... I too have the curse. But I want you to know you have been an inspiration, but however inspiring I HAVE THIS DAMN FATAL FLAW! Excuse the sound of anger and frustraion... OK

I will let you know if I ever find a cure.

Damn Arin, you seem like a trutly wonderful guy. You are both beautiful....and **** I sound like a creep again.

Anyways the reponse...

I am currently in a relationship running fairly parallel to your foureyedmonster episodes. We are going on three years now, ...'my guy', he's amazing and I love him...And when we first got together we we're so invigorated and simply right...fucking inspired. Now I feel like we've hit this wall...we are no longer inspiring eachother, and I feel as if I need to get away from him to get any of my shit figuired out, or maybe if I had more space or time to myself I would be able to get some art done. I've had some amazing idea's...but thats just what they are...idea's.

At the same time I am having this struggle because he is my best friend, he is my lover, he is my family, he is me... I know we are suffering the same feelings, neither of us can cope. But, do I leave, can I honestly walk away from the most amazing fucking person/things I have seen/met/experienced/looooved?  I have never gone so far as Susan to even get the balls to kiss anyone else, but i've thought about it, I feel, young, and sexed... and I want change....or do I, you know?

I simply can't figure it out, and humans as a general rule they think they want soemthing...and then they get it...and then are they any happier? or do they want something else.

 

where is the end of the earth?

am i dying alive or can art still be evoked from this lifeless monster.

better yet, can love survive...

your sad sap friend,

nicole.

 

p.s. good luck to you both, i hope you both find what you're looking for.

I'm curious about this fatal flaw.  What is it??