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Falling in love at any age

Love happens at every age and should not be disregarded even when the object of one’s love is someone much younger.  It’s a difficult theme to explore when you, yourself have not experienced the fullness of love.  That is if you define such fullness as marriage, as the commitment of another soul so enraptured with you that they need to be connected with you all their lives; a love so deep that it conquers all other fears, insecurities, and misgivings within oneself; within yourself.   When I was younger, I was definitely more drawn to the physical but now that I’m older I’m more attracted to the mind.   A mind of a romantic heart, of an adventurous soul, of someone with antagonizing thoughts who considers both sides of issues respecting others yet searching how they can be a part of the solution.. This mind can live in a man who is only 27, or 34, or 47..  Consideration knows no age.  Romanticism knows no bounds.  It seems entirely natural of course except why is it that society shuns older men when they hit on women 20 years their junior? Well, most of those men are not searching for a wise mind to be sure.  But seriously, what lets those men think they have a chance?  What allows me to gaze upon or be drawn into the words of a man ten years my junior and think that my affection will be reciprocated more than out of politeness?  We remain the same as we grow older.  We get smarter, we learn from our experiences, we experience pain, but deep down we remain young in our hearts.  I always joke that I am “26” because, well, I feel 26.  Granted, the grey hairs popping out all over the crown of my head don’t make me look 26, nor do the crow’s feet smiling at the corners of my eyes, yet I’m drawn to men likely too young to consider.  Oh, I’m very much attracted to men my own age as well, however, they are mostly married or chasing younger women!  So it was with related sadness as I watched Judy Dench in the film, Ladies in Lavender, how she fell in love with a boy surely thirty years younger than she.  She dreamed about him, not as she was, but as if she were a young woman, as if she had no love in her youth that she could hold onto, as if she waited for a man who never came, until now.  Of course she eventually recognized this silliness, but it didn’t take away the yearning and affection in her heart.  The film was sweet in this way as well as beautifully filmed off the coast of England.  It moved a little slow perhaps, though slow as the lives of these older women, sisters played by Judy Dench and Maggie Smith, would pace themselves.  In that way we lived in the dailies of these women and through this most unusual of experiences.

Re: Falling in love at any age

lovely and beautifully written story/idea about love with no age boundaries;I often hear about men who go for much younger men;BUT  often it is less writen and discussed about women falling for men  so much younger than them;I use to feel myself that i should always go for guys close to my age :but as i do get older i prefer the younger men."We get smarter, we learn from our experiences, we experience pain, but deep down we remain young in our hearts.  I always joke that I am “26” because, well, I feel 26."I feel just like that;I always joke that i am much younger than my actual age or i just do not disclose it;Often,much younger men are attracted to me and i actually do not mind,it is fun

I do not remember where i read this but when you are much older (at least over 30 yrs. of age);you divide your actual age by 2 and add 7 to that;that total would be a great age to stay with(your young at heart age).

Example if you are 30, divide by 2 or in half which is 15 and add 7 to that equals 22;then you tell everyone you are 22 in heart or just say you are 22,they do not need to know how old you really are if you do not want them to know(especially if you look and act much younger than your actual age)

The movie Ladies in Lavender,strikes my curiosity;sounds like a good story;gonna check it out