What is your experience? Can you relate to Four Eyed Monsters.

I was having a conversation with my wife about Four Eyed Monsters a couple days ago and I think the reason we fell in love with the movie, the podcast, the mythos of it all is that we actually had a similar experience. We were young, in love, and everything felt done and played out. We wanted to forge "our own reality" and started writing notes to each other, drawing cartoons, sharing our experience non-verbally. I think that part of this can come with immaturity, always wanting to do things counter to social norms. But it also is something that was definitely made more powerful because of our intense connection to each other. Communicating creatively made our relationship grow even faster. Hey, look at us now, almost 10 years later... married, house, 2 cats, and working at the same place.

I was wondering if other Spouters had a similar experience or could share their own experience with strong relationships and bonding moments.

Thanks,

 V

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I think there is something common to wanting to make things for a person that you're falling in love with, especially as a substitute for actually talking about your feelings. The mixtape would be the classic example; I think the extent that you go beyond that depends on your own personal creative inclinations. My boyfriend is far more creative than I am, and when we first got together he was the one making drawings and mix cds and writing little notes. I responded the only way I knew how: by feeding him. But now that we've been together for a fairly long time, the individual gestures become less important (or maybe I'm just trying to cover for the fact that I haven't cooked dinner all week). One of the things that fascinates me about Arin and Susan is their ability to continure to find inspiration in their relationship.

Re: What is your experience? Can you relate to Four Eyed Monsters.

Re: What is your experience? Can you relate to Four Eyed Monsters.

Re: What is your experience? Can you relate to Four Eyed Monsters.

I think that just as the title suggests a true couple is a whole new form of human. Not the dress the same, finish each other's sentences human, but one that works for common goals and benefits. It's difficult when a relationship begins because it's a toss up or whether it's going to develop into something or fizzle out. If the connection is strong  and there is that indefinable something I think the couple must then begin the even harder task of trying to determine its new identity. "Forging a new reality" is an accurate way to describe the insulated world two people share when they truly love each other.

For me, that's what resonates most with the film. I'm in a relationship and it's just as loving and combative as the one portrayed in the movie. Living, loving, working, and depending on someone is hard and Four Eyed Monsters captures that.

Re: What is your experience? Can you relate to Four Eyed Monsters.

As a 16-year-old computer geek, I have had very little experience with relationships, mostly finding places to sit at lunch. So, in theory, I should've felt nothing when I watched this movie. Yet, somehow, because of all of my hopes and desires for the future, this move touched me greatly. I'm still not entirely sure why. I can only really remember crying after about 10 minutes. All the anxiety about what would happen in a relationship, the fears about whether or not it will work, it all adds up. I think that really speaks to the power of the movie, that someone who has never been in a relationship can still feel the emotions expressed. It felt like all of the tensions and anxieties of a relationship, but with nobody there to share them with.

I am not planning to immitate any of the dating techniques used. 

Re: What is your experience? Can you relate to Four Eyed Monsters.