Comic-Con coverage on Spout
Advertisement

Dear Pillow
  • 0
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
  • Rate this movie.

Buy it now on DVD
Starting at $12.89

Rent it, watch it, find it

Advertisement

Directed by Bryan Poyser.
Preem at Slamdance completed an unexpected theme at this year's fest of a fascination with porn. However, unlike other visually explicit offerings, "Dear Pillow" concerns characters who read, talk and write about sex but never actually do it. Poyser (as writer and director) and Vaughn (as producer, lenser and editor) portray a microcosm of lonely, direction-less, obsessed people, starting with a man at home reading an edition of porn-letter rag "Dear Pillow," with the story he's reading then spoken in v.o. by Dusty (Gary Chason), whose observations of a young bag-boy at a supermarket have inspired him to dash home and bang out the "Dear Pillow" letter. Meanwhile, Wes (Rusty Kelley), the bag-boy himself, has his own adolescent fantasies which he relates in v.o. while listening in on radio frequencies to the libidinous chatter of two adults. Wes lives in a one-bedroom apartment with his dad (Cory Criswell). His "bedroom" is a tiny space off the living room and kitchen which he half-covers with a makeshift curtain to give the illusion of privacy. Wes and Dusty live in the same apartment complex, and Wes, noticing Dusty observing him, assumes the much older man is gay. One day, spotting an envelope containing a paycheck, for Dusty, Wes connects it with the publisher of the bondage books his dad hides in a bedroom cabinet. Wes confronts Dusty, thinking he is perverted, but then Wes becomes interested in the letters Dusty writes for "Dear Pillow." The development of the relationship is at once utterly natural and most unsettling, as Dusty and Wes matter-of-factly share stories of sexual perversions. The introduction of the property's landlady Lorna (Viviane Vives), first all business, then revealed as another consumer of porn, spins things into a direction that auger lewdness in the extreme. But Poyser and Vaughn are less interested in shock value than considering the various inappropriate ways in which ideas of sex are communicated by adults to the young -- ranging from the parties Wes, Dusty and Lorna have that seem to foreshadow a menage a trois, to Wes' dad, suspicious something is going on with the neighbors, wanting to distract his son by taking him to a strip club on his 18th birthday. Non-pro Kelley puts across an unselfconscious portrayal of an unsure and unformed teen, borne out superbly in a finale intriguing for its open-ended uncertainty. (Although, to be sure, pic feels short by at least two scenes.) Chason's Dusty is the picture of an aging, lonely figure looking for friendship -- even if his agenda appears to be making a vid starring Wes and Lorna. Criswell is very good as a confused father. Vid lensing in 24p is outstanding, with camera coverage and editing sharp, engaging and intelligent. The everyday American setting (in Austin) is carefully realized, making its own strong but subtle point. ~www.Variety.com
[more]

Reviews and discussions

Write a review

RisseladaRisselada Dear Pillow
by Risselada in Risselada Blog
is neutral about it.
Was this review helpful? [Be the first to tell us!]
"Dear PillowI received this one after the Filmcouch Spout Podcast episode about it. Sorry to Paul for never writing or commenting much about it after I saw it. I certainly meant to, but sometimes my motivation fails and then falls by the wayside.I think I understand what each person was saying on that podcast. The movie brings to light the concern that parents' hesitation to speak with their children about sex or a lot of emotional issues for that matter is a big problem. Not that a better solution is necessarily for a young person to start getting advice from someone like Dusty or Lorna.There were elements in this movie that were at times almost simultaneously more and less realistic than most movies. There is something real about the way that Wes is so hesitant to formulate any concrete ideas. He both can't say what he's thinking, and also usually doesn't even really know what he's thinking. I've felt like that quite often, and I've seen many oth ... " [More]
paulpaul FilmCouch #47
by paul in paul on spout.com
loved it.
Was this review helpful? [Be the first to tell us!]
"We interview Julian Schnabel, director of The Diving Bell and the Butterfly, opening tonight. Karina and I cross wires on its watch worthiness. We also interview Brian Poyser, director of Dear Pillow. It’s a complicated, divisive, raw look at porn leading Kevin and I into some verbal wrastlin’. FilmCouch 47 (Subscribe to FilmCouch in the iTunes store and an episode will download each Friday.) The Diving Bell and the Butterfly, Dear Pillow Originally posted on:SpoutBlog » Paul " [More]
paulpaul Pillow sex
by paul in paul on spout.com
loved it.
Was this review helpful? [Be the first to tell us!]
"When I was getting the trailer up for Joe Swanberg’s Butterknife yesterday, I noticed our ad network had placed a banner for Dear Pillow (just released on DVD) on SpoutBlog. It felt serendipitous considering Dear Pillow and Swanberg’s Kissing on the Mouth were often cited together when they came out because of their frank treatment of sex. (Director Brian Poyser and Joe Swanberg are also friends who collaborated on Grammy’s, a short film included on the Dear Pillow DVD.) I get excited to see a film, which two years ago I thought was too edgy to be seen outside a festival, getting a shot at an audience. However, my first reaction was disappointment to see the film’s marketers exploiting the T&A strategy. In a movie with no gratuitous sex scenes, Dear Pillow’s mock porn mag cover and “UNRATED” label heavily hint that it does. The “gratuitous sex” takes place in conversations between a teenage boy and two adults shockingly comfortable with talking about all things intercourse. Althoug ... " [More]
SpoutBlogSpoutBlog FilmCouch #47
by SpoutBlog in SpoutBlog on spout.com
hasn't rated it.
Was this review helpful? [Be the first to tell us!]
"We interview Julian Schnabel, director of The Diving Bell and the Butterfly, opening tonight. Karina and I cross wires on its watch worthiness. We also interview Brian Poyser, director of Dear Pillow. It’s a complicated, divisive, raw look at porn leading Kevin and I into some verbal wrastlin’. FilmCouch 47 (Subscribe to FilmCouch in the iTunes store and an episode will download each Friday.) The Diving Bell and the Butterfly, Dear Pillow Originally posted on:SpoutBlog " [More]
paulpaul FilmCouch #47 - DEAR PILLOW, TH ...
by paul in FilmCouch
loved it.
"We interview Julian Schnabel, director of The Diving Bell and the Butterfly, opening tonight. Karina and I cross wires on its watch worthiness. We also interview Brian Poyser, director of Dear Pillow. It's a complicated, divisive, raw look at porn leading Kevin and I into some verbal wrastlin'. FilmCouch 47 " [More]
SpoutBlogSpoutBlog Pillow sex
by SpoutBlog in SpoutBlog on spout.com
hasn't rated it.
Was this review helpful? [Be the first to tell us!]
"When I was getting the trailer up for Joe Swanberg’s Butterknife yesterday, I noticed our ad network had placed a banner for Dear Pillow (just released on DVD) on SpoutBlog. It felt serendipitous considering Dear Pillow and Swanberg’s Kissing on the Mouth were often cited together when they came out because of their frank treatment of sex. (Director Brian Poyser and Joe Swanberg are also friends who collaborated on Grammy’s, a short film included on the Dear Pillow DVD.) I get excited to see a film, which two years ago I thought was too edgy to be seen outside a festival, getting a shot at an audience. However, my first reaction was disappointment to see the film’s marketers exploiting the T&A strategy. In a movie with no gratuitous sex scenes, Dear Pillow’s mock porn mag cover and “UNRATED” label heavily hint that it does. The “gratuitous sex” takes place in conversations between a teenage boy and two adults shockingly comfortable with talking about all things intercourse. Althoug ... " [More]
 



Community ratings

mavens
Spout mavens
lost interest.
most people
Most people
are neutral about it.

Other opinions

cyrus23
cyrus23
loved it.
rosa100
rosa100
loved it.
paul
paul
loved it.
tadiv
tadiv
lost interest.
daryn
daryn
is not interested.