Ah, the eternal allure of the troglodyte god. The straight-identified rough-trade waif. Those broad shoulders, tawdry tattoos, ass cheeks like warm, firm scoops of ice cream that never melt. Bulgarian Lovers is a new film that punctures and celebrates the practical and probably very old arrangement between older gay men and those earthy, uneducated, delectable bad boys. Kyril (Dritan Biba) embodies the kind of poisonous desire nearly impossible to resist, the sort of relationship we intuitively know is going be harmful, if not ultimately fatal. Daniel (Fernando Guillen Cuervo) glamorizes Kyril’s illegal activities (drug-dealing, car theft, uranium smuggling) perceiving him as an anarchist or gangster instead of a spiv. He even imagines himself as Kyril’s moll. He becomes Kyril’s “patron”. He’s not really a sugar-daddy, and Kyril isn’t exactly his kept boy or gigolo. Daniel’s longing for Kyril is ostensibly simple (you only need to see him to understand why) but also, somewhat complicated.
Kyril, the struggling, earnest Bulgarian immigrant is many things that Daniel is not. Younger, buff, intense, working-class, impulsive, not stupid but not intellectual, either. Daniel, however is also quite attractive, fit, gentle, charming and financially successful. One of the delights and tragedies of Bulgarian Lovers is the way Daniel distorts Kyril’s character, not only to mitigate the pain of disappointment, but to create the ideal romantic partner. His need to create a particular sort of man whose dangerous life and physical splendor he can partake of perhaps blinds him to a greater intimacy. Not that the two aren’t involved in a mutually caring relationship.
What separates this film from many others is the suggestion that people who truly love us can still exploit us, that perhaps an unspoken, even subconscious contract can exist between lover and beloved. A compromise between what we want most and what we are willing to settle for. Daniel is so plagued by a false sense of inadequacy that the privilege of loving Kyril is astonishing to him. Intoxicating. Like permission to dwell in the temple of Apollo or Dionysus. To know he can have limited access to such exquisite virility, even a small taste, is so deliriously tantalizing that no price, however ludicrous, is too high.
Daniel finds Kyril somewhat unexpectedly. After videotaping a number of juicy looking men at a bar, he happens upon Kyril, who asks for a cigarette. Daniel buys him a meal (he hasn’t eaten in 3 days) and eventually asks if he wants to go home with him. When Kyril shakes his head, Daniel goes on to explain in voice-over that in Bulgaria nodding means “no” and shaking the head means “yes“. You could call this a portent, an omen pointing to the ambivalent nature of Daniel’s attachment to Kyril. He knows he’s being used, gradually Kyril makes it impossible to ignore, and before the movie is over, Daniel will endanger himself and take all kinds of risks in the name of love.
What knocks me out about Bulgarian Lovers, what I think is startling and affecting, is how the director, Eloy de la Iglesia, never tries to convince us that Daniel is not a fool, only that sometimes foolishness is a reasonable trade for love. Whether we can buy into this or not, Iglesia makes an alarmingly compelling case. And it’s a heartbreaker, watching Daniel keeping his suave composure while we know he must be dying underneath. When he looks into the camera and tells us he’s a “stupid bitch.” Throughout the movie his friends warn him that Bulgarian immigrants are bad news, that Kyril will only cause him misery. And while that may not be exactly true, he certainly causes more than he should.
What makes much of Bulgarian Lovers bearable is Kyril’s earnest love for Daniel. He never pretends it’s something that it’s not, and cares for Daniel in the same way we love a parent, or someone who supports and looks out for us. Which may explain his friend Gildo’s observation that Daniel can be somewhat kinky. Even though it’s never said aloud, Kyril has become Daniel’s lover for pay, but we never get the impression he feels obliged. He loves Daniel like a buddy or protege who’s decided he’s okay with having sex. Like the kind of guys who figure that if it’s with another man, it doesn’t really count. The scene where he finds Daniel the evening after his wedding so they can dance together is one of the most touching and audacious I’ve ever witnessed. Iglesias has fashioned a sleek, sly parable on the nature of love and wanting, with the very odd conclusion that delusion, martyrdom and genuine care are not necessarily incompatible. Or maybe that we all just do the best we can with what we’ve got, and what comes our way.